We all have fears; some big, some small and many that fall somewhere in between. While there are certain fears that seem impossible to tackle, others are very possible to overcome. Certain fears can really limit our lifestyles and others can hold us back. Regardless of which fears are a problem for you, I’ve come up with these quick tips to help you possibly face those fears and ultimately, overcome them. Let’s get to the tips:
1. What’s the Worst Thing that Could Possibly Happen?
This is the FIRST question you should be asking yourself when it comes to tackling any fear. Realistically, what is the worst thing that could happen?
Example: I used to have a hard time actually submitting articles & stories to publications and sites. The fear was very real and it was holding me back big time. But, when I seriously got into it, (non-verbally, inside my own head where the fear was manifested), I realized that all-in-all, it was a pretty lame fear due to asking the simple question: What’s the worst thing that could possibly happen?
The answer: a rejection letter. That’s it!
Most of the time, facing our fears poses no real danger. To tackle a fear, first ask yourself: What’s the worst thing that could possibly happen.
The answer will likely give you a boost towards facing that fear.
2. Self-Confidence – Boost it!
Lots of fears linger because we doubt ourselves. Without a healthy amount of self-confidence, it can be easy to look at any fear you have and perform workarounds to avoid actually facing that fear.
Take steps to increase your self-confidence. Check out this post about Building Self-Confidence!
3. Is This Fear Holding You Back?
Fears like flying can really limit the places you can travel to. If you enjoy traveling for new experiences, not facing a fear of flying IS holding you back.
Ask yourself if a particular fear is impacting your life in a negative way. If the answer is ‘yes’, it’s time to find a means to face that fear!
4. Risk & Stats
One of the ways I faced my fear of flying was to break down all the risks via statistics. Facts are friends, folks. Learn them, live them and use this information to evaluate how valid your fear actually is.
While I believe that, in time, every fear can be overcome, you first have to accept it. For example, I’m afraid of frogs – it’s a phobia really. Even though logically, I know that a frog cannot harm me, I’m afraid of them. Accepting that has actually lessened the amount of panic I feel when I come face-to-face with one of the slimy little shits.
Accept what scares you. We’re only human. We all get scared sometimes.
6. Face it With a Friend
Sometimes, facing fear with somebody we trust at our sides is the best way to conquer it. Power in numbers, I guess? Either way, if you’re facing something that you’re really afraid of, don’t go at it alone. This helps A LOT of people!
7. What are you Really Afraid of?
Most of our fears have roots. I mean that there are reasons we are afraid of certain things. Getting to the root of why a certain thing scares you will tell you a lot about yourself and the reason you hold that fear.
If the fear is something that’s really having a negative impact on your life and you want to get to the root of it – see a therapist. They’ll talk you through the process of not only the root of the fear but, the best way to face it.
8. Know That Fear, (in some ways), can be very Exciting
Facing fears doesn’t have to be an unpleasant experience. A lot of times, it’s quite the opposite. Fear can be exciting – it can get that lovely natural adrenaline pumping. You may discover a whole new side of you! I’ve experienced it and seen others do the same.
Take the leap – you may be surprised.
“The fears we don’t face become our limits.” – Robin Sharma
Fear is limiting. Fear can stand in our way. Fear CAN be conquered.
Love this. Just came at the right time
Having a communication with the anxiety and fear, is literally the only way out of it as a permanent solution! Well said. Otherwise distracting yourself is just a quick fix and temporary solution.
Exactly! Re your first point, sometimes you just have to face fear head on and tell it ‘so what?!’.
Even though you are scared, just do it anyway. Then fear will flee from you. But you got to keep these habits up .
Nice post and good points